five years ago today – I was on the phone with Liberation Theory talking to her about a ‘friend’ that had turned into a ‘dating’ situation. i was almost a year into dating this girl and the reality was I had slipped and fallen in love – BUT i had also recently moved to a new state and wasn’t sure if being IN love with someone now far away was a good idea. i had to the opportunity to start fresh in a new city. meet new people. explore. be foot loose and fancy free. unattached. (don’t act like you don’t know what I mean).
‘but, we’re not even together, Lib – we are just dating’ and her response was ‘so, ask her to be with you. you already know she’s the one’ (or something extra prolific like that) in hindsight it was not good timing for either of us to be talking about being a relationship. both of us had a lot going on in our separate lives, and the last thing we needed to add to the pile was a relationship. but under my friend’s urging, i did it. i called her up and interrupted her wednesday night out. she was hanging out at her friend’s house and we usually didn’t interrupt the other when we were ‘out’. but since I was calling, she answered. i had only one question ‘will you be my girlfriend?’ and she responded with a quick ‘yes’. ‘ok, that’s all that I wanted, get back to your friends and we will talk later’. and as we hung up the phone i had a huge smile on my face and a lump in my belly.
i yahooed Lib right after, ‘well, I did it’.
and IT was the best thing I ever did. now five years later, as it turns out she was the one. not to say that we haven’t had our crazy moments when we both temporarily forgot that life is much better with the other in it. that is the only realization needed for a good relationship. once we figured that out it has been smooth sailing. Jae is my air. she makes it ALLright. she’s the love of my life and the best thing that ever happened for me.
as I floated down the stairs this morning and off to a meeting, i noticed the pretty little green plant that sits on a end table in our living room. it’s actually the same plant I gave Jae, when we were still newly friends. she had a rough day and i wanted to do something to cheer her up. i remember that she mentioned that flowers were not her thing – but she loved plants. golden pathos to be exact. so I picked one up and drove it over to her house hoping it would put a smile on her face. i guess I should have known then…that she should would this special to me. her bad days still incite me to react to do something, anything to make them better.
i think it’s wonderful that she still has the plant and yes, it’s still growing.
Happy Anniversary, Jae.
–Em.
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